Science is currently trying to figure out why so-called prostate orgasms feel so intense—but, frankly, the why is unimportant. So, I talked with Sex and Relationships coach Dr. Charlie Glickman, PhD, who literally wrote the book on prostate pleasure to explain just how to enjoy this under-appreciated erogenous zone. Glickman's first point?
Women, Men, and Male Anal Play
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Located inside the anus, the prostrate is essentially a male G-spot. However, for some straight men there is a lot of shame, guilt, and confusion around admitting you enjoy anal. To these men, to enjoy butt stuff is to admit that they enjoy something predominately revered in the gay community. For these men, it is this antiquated idea that to be on the insertion end of anything sexual would detract from their masculinity.
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Lots of straight men are turned off by the idea of anal play to be fair, many bi and gay men are too , and as a result are missing out on a whole world of fun. This is the third in a multi-part series from After Hours about anal play. You can see the other posts in the series as they come out here. Seriously though, your anus and rectum are full of nerve endings, just like your penis.
If it feels good, anything goes! Cisgender men and people assigned male at birth have a prostate , so in these cases a butt orgasm results from stimulating the prostate. You can stimulate the P-spot through the perineum, which is the runway of skin between the balls and the anus. This is how anal orgasms work for cisgender women and people assigned female at birth. Anal penetration indirectly stimulates the A-spot in the vagina. The A-spot, or anterior fornix if you want to get fancy, is located deep inside the vagina — around 5 or 6 inches in. It feels like intense waves of pleasure that begin deep inside your body and radiate through the rest of your body. In other words: Ah-mazing.